Roberto Di Marco was born and raised in Rome, Italy. There has been a liceo in Rome, earning degrees in philosophy, psychology, criminology and forensic psychiatry. Roberto worked as a teacher for disabled children, taught literature in secondary education and history and philosophy in high school. From 1982 to 1989 he was a lecturer in the Department of Neurological Sciences in an Italian university and also worked as a counselor for couples and mentally sick. In search of an anthology of expat life, Roberto lived six months in Cebu in the Philippines and two years in Phuket Thailand. In 2014, Orchid Press published Roberto What Are you pack if you never return, a compilation of 15 true stories of expatriates who have left their past behind and start a new life in a foreign country.
What do you think motivates people to move to another countries to live and work?
habits People often very established and need a strong motivation to leave their country. The most common reason to make a radical geographical change is a desire to improve economic conditions. But there are many other reasons: to move from one rich country to a poor country where their worth more money; men looking for women and lovers; the increased economic power that offers greater choice; the appearance of a more temperate climate; attracting more natural lifestyle, free of constraints and formalities. A minority, most artists and disgruntled writers are interested to discover new dimensions in their lives. Bali, for example, is more suited to the artist of the businessman.
Why does living abroad change us?
The knowledge of different countries and new lifestyles using people become masters of their destiny and not a victim of system. At home, each of us exists in a limited environment, confined to only what we can see and experience in our immediate surroundings, to know what our neighbors our friends and his colleagues are doing. We all think that it and maybe even the best normal way of life. But often we want something more, sometimes without realizing it.
What are the Asian countries are the most favorable for expatriates live?
I personally like international tourist centers busy as Bali in Indonesia and Phuket in Thailand where you can find fantastic nature and was eternal, but also services for people of worldwide. In these places you will find a different way of life, but you are able to enjoy almost all the habits and comfort found in your home country. In countries such as Laos, Cambodia, the Philippines and northern Thailand, a now can live for less than 1000 euros per month. In a city or area with some expats and tourists, you can live even cheaper.
Can you give examples from your expat book took a successful life for themselves abroad?
I always loved the story of a man who led a Spanish boring life in Spain as a clerk then became a seaplane pilot in the Philippines, which - to say the least - open new perspectives for him. Another story is about a man who was pursued by the Mafia and ended up in Bali.
What are the best practices and attitudes have to do a success of living abroad?
Be open to changing your habits, do not judge others and do not be inflexible in your opinions. Take the opportunity to test yourself in unknown situations. Try to understand different ways of seeing and thinking. Visit places other than those in which you can meet your fellow countrymen. Many compatriots often found in the same places that predictable just recreate in a foreign setting the lives they lived in their country of origin. This is understandable. We all want sense of belonging to a family group, but it is also important to be part of the culture of "the other", to contact with different people from other countries and walks of life. This does not mean of course that you have to abandon your identity or blindly accept whatever is culturally new.
What are the most important steps expatriate should take after arriving in his adopted country?
Get as much information as possible in advance of the new The culture of the country, customs, health services , retirement living, tax laws, visas, how to save money, etc. It is important what kind of dangers exist, such as the risk of disease or crime, as well as which sectors and districts are Expat blogs are particularly good for advice and safe to live. useful information for those who want to integrate. study the language of the new country will be a pleasure to mix with the locals, so buy a dictionary and lexicon.
What are the most common causes of this expatriate failed trying to live abroad?
Sometimes expatriates behave as if they are still in their own countries, ignoring the rules and what is acceptable behavior in their country adoption. Licts conf often occur in mixed weddings, for example when a Catholic marries a Muslim. I know of a case where an Egyptian married to an Italian woman took her 12-year-old daughter on vacation his country where he forced to undergo clitoridectomy. His wife was outraged and filed for divorce. Now, the daughter does not want to see, is charged with a serious identity crisis acts as a male and eats pork in violation of Muslim religion.
Marrying a Filipina, Javanese or Thai woman can mean relatives and friends are frequently visited or alive in your home, which may require you to sacrifice privacy. Expats may have to reconcile the sense of community that an African or Asian woman feels individualism which European prices. For English, family difficulties are resolved in private, but an Ethiopian is normal to involve relatives and friends in the family resolution problems . Does your African or Asian partner to lend trend to criticize any Westerner? Would he or she is ready to become passive to maintain peace?
Are there any good movies on expat life?
The film The Song of Carla is a revelation for those who think to marry someone from another culture. During hero Ken Loach fall in love and taking a trip down unknown world of his partner, he is carried away in politics cause of his people .
So what does this pack you when you go to live in a new country?
An Italian English dictionary and an Italian-whateverlanguage- dictionary of-the-new-country. I also carry books on a variety of topics about the country of adoption.
How can you be contacted?
send me to robydimarco@yahoo.com or visit or visit my site www.bobdimarco.com